Who Are We When No One Knows Our Name?

Your Hands

I read a great line in a post by Carra Hughes Greer on “Virtual Values“. In it, Carra discusses the virtual reality of things like ethics, morality and values, citing bullying and therefore cyber bulling as one of her main examples that the online world is by no means an ethical utopia, but requires the same kind of social awareness that we have offline.

She finishes with this excellent line:

I think about the adage, “Character is who you are when no one is watching.” It seems the adage must be slightly updated to fit our context, “Character is who you present yourself to be and the things you say when no one knows your real-world name.

I really resonate with this. I wrote in this article at the beginning of the year that as a community, we must stop giving value to those who are unaccountable. It seems everyone can have their two cents today, without being accountable for the words they speak because they hide their real-world name.

What Carra says won’t resonate with everyone though. I got a lot of criticism earlier this year and most of it from people without real-world names on Twitter or the comments on this blog. For many people, character and accountability don’t matter. But for those of us for whom it does, this is a call to up our game.

I know many times I’ve behaved in a way online – even with my name visible – that I wouldn’t offline. So thank you, Carra, for calling me on it.

Your Leading Thoughts

  • Who are you when no one knows your real-world name? (Or when no one knows your real-world face?)

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Truth is life’s most priceless commodity

My friend Ian Ballinger tweeted this out this morning: Truth is life’s most priceless commodity.

Your Leading Thoughts

I was talking to someone last night about how people think they are right a l0t of the time.

  • This is somewhat of the stubbornness that you need to succeed today though, right?
  • I have “mirrors” in my life – close friends to reflect the truth to me when I don’t see it myself. How do you ensure truth shines into your life?

How do you make time to think?

I put this out on the Like Minds blog this week. It’s a fabulous talk by John Cleese on creativity, mainly about how to be more creative by setting boundaries in space and boundaries in time.

He makes the following 6 points:

  1. Sleeping on a problem helps creativity.
  2. The unconscious mind works creatively even when you’re not creatively engaged (John tells a great story to illustrate this.)
  3. Interruption breaks creativity, and it’s hard to pick up the flow again.
  4. We don’t know where we get our ideas from – we don’t get them from our laptops – they come from our unconscious. If you get in the right restful mood (not being busy), you are not going to have any creative ideas. This really resonates with me and my over busyness.
  5. You need to create a “tortoise enclosure” by: creating space and creating time. This creates an oasis that is separate from ordinary life. Boundaries in space, boundaries in time.
  6. Most people who don’t know what they are doing have no idea that they have no idea what they are doing. This explains why so many people are unfocussed.

I want to focus on what John says about creating an oasis that is separate from ordinary life, set by boundaries in space and boundaries in time.

Do You Have Space?

Here’s my dilemma. I have no space like this. I am “balls to the wall” as the saying crudely goes, and I consider myself as being quite creative in this tight space. I wonder how much more creative I could be. I must be wasting a lot of time without having this time to focus and think clearly.

Likewise I’m sure this is true of many people – do we have time to reflect? I’ve written a lot about this, but just don’t seem to be able to get this right. I would say that my problem is one of delegation – I have too much to do myself but struggle passing it down the line. The catch 22 is of course, if you don’t delegate, you don’t get time, but you need time to delegate!

One comment on this blog was bang on with this, by Robin Dickinson, with regards to “Harmony”:

Harmony is achieved when the inner me and my outer actions are in-synch. It’s almost the opposite of GTD thinking where different aspects of me get scheduled and prioritized. Imagine the body try to schedule your breathing or your pulse??

Your Leading Thoughts

I need you help here today as I have got to sort this out:

  • Do you have creative space? How do you build it? How do you keep it?
  • How do you effectively delegate in order to create this space?

Exposure

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I think one of the greatest gifts you can give someone is exposure to new things. Exposure opens the mind, giving it new possibilities and fresh perspective on it’s current place in the world.

My favourite thing to do is to take kids who have closed mindsets and show them around places they’ve never been before, like Like Minds Conference. It makes them realise what is possible.

Your Leading Thoughts

  • How do you pursue exposure? If you’re a parent, how do you foster exposure without fostering a sense of entitlement to new experiences in your child?
  • With our travelling, googling society, what does exposure really mean anymore?

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Ideas Don’t Equal Innovation: A Filter For What You Could Do, And What You Should Do

Exploring an ideaI love Mike Myatt’s blog. A leader’s leader, Mike has a wealth of leadership experience and insight that he boils down into quick but prudent lessons everyday. I remember speaking with him on the phone at the beginning of the year, and it was clear to me that whilst Mike works with top companies and is a revered figure in leadership theory circles, he walks his talk. The very fact that he time for a phone call with me also speaks volumes about him.

One of Mike’s main things is focus. This isn’t just a singular focus on one thing, but it’s about adjusting focus as a balance between near sighted and far sighted. He famously says that “It’s not leadership or management, it’s leadership and management. It’s not strategy or tactics, it’s strategy and tactics”, which gives you an idea about this approach.

It is on the subject of focus that I clipped this article of his that demands some treatment from the Friends here at our blog. In his post, “Ideas Don’t Equal Innovation“, Mike lays out 15 elements to measure what you could do against what you should do. We have no shortage of ideas today and thus the defining characteristic of strong leaders, particularly in the digital space, is a focus that is not deterred easily by what they could do. We’ve certainly all been in that place where we’ve been governed by could instead of should.

Mike’s 15 Filters

1. The idea should be generated within a solid framework for decisioning. It should be developed as a solution to a problem or to exploit an opportunity. The idea should be in alignment with the overall vision and mission of the enterprise.

2. If the idea doesn’t provide a unique competitive advantage it should at least bring you closer to an even playing field.

3. Any new idea should preferably add value to existing initiatives, and if not, it should show a significant enough return on investment to justify the dilutive effect of not keeping the main thing the main thing.

4. Put the idea through a risk/reward and cost/benefit analysis.

5. Whether the new idea is intended for your organization, vendors, suppliers, partners or customers it must easy to use. Usability drives adoptability, and therefore it pays to keep things simple.

6. Just because an idea sounds good doesn’t mean it is You should endeavor to validate proof of concept based upon detailed, credible research.

7. Nothing is without risk, and when you think something is without risk, that is when you’re most likely to end-up in trouble. All initiatives surrounding new ideas should include detailed risk management provisions.

8. Adopting a new idea should be based upon solid business logic that drives corresponding financial engineering and modeling. Be careful of high level, pie-in-the-sky projections.

9. Any new ideas should contain accountability provisions. Every task should be assigned and managed according to a plan and in the light of day.

10. Any new ideas being adopted must lead to measurable objectives. Deliverables, benchmarks, deadlines, and success metrics must be incorporated into the plan.

11. It must be detailed and deliverable on a schedule. The initiative should have a beginning, middle and end.

12. Ideas need to be incorporated into strategic initiatives and not constitute disparate systems. They should be incorporated into integrated solutions that eliminate redundancies, and build in tactical leverage points.

13. Ideas should contain a road-map for versioning and evolution that is in alignment with other strategic initiatives and the overall corporate mission.

14. A successful idea cannot remain in a strategic planning state. It must be actionable through tactical implementation.

15. Senior leadership must champion any new idea being adopted. If someone at the C-suite level is against the new idea, it will likely die on the cutting-room floor.

Your Leading Thoughts

I don’t want you to discuss all 15. You might want to clip this for later, but there’s too much here for you guys to take time out now to spend a length of time discussing, instead:

  • Pick 2 out of the 15 that are issues that you have faced recently and have had victory in. Share your story and your lessons so that we can learn form your practical implementation of these points.

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Video: There’s Growth in the Boredom

Every Sunday I share an inspirational video and this week’s is a 2 minute inspiration blast from my very good friend Robin Dickinson.

The best bit about this inspiration video? It isn’t telling you what you need to do that you aren’t already doing. It’s telling you what not to do that you are already doing: do the boring stuff.

I love this. Robin basically says that the business is in the boring. Once you’ve got the idea and made the sale, now you must deliver, and delivering isn’t as fun. I certainly have struggled with executing the boring on a regular basis, and have suffered greatly because of it. I continually find myself restless, looking for new things to tweak because I don’t want to knuckle down and deliver.

Obtaining vs Maintaining

In our attention age we have two problems that have strengthened the hold of boredom as an influencer on our lives:

  1. We are so used to multitasking and being distracted that the focus on mantainence is increasingly unnatural to us (and thus needs to be learnt.) Remember that it’s easier to obtain than maintain.
  2. The saying that “you can do anything you put your mind to” has created a youth culture in particular that thinks, “I can do anything I put my mind to and don’t really need to fine tune my skills because I can do anything.” What they forget is that you have to put your mind, and everything else you’ve got, to do anything of worth. Thus we have a complacency and an atitude that considers itself to be above the boring. Again, they’d rather be obtaining (having fun) than maintaining (sharpening the saw).

We need a major shift in our thinking to overcome this detrimental habit:

Getting Clear On Results And Rewards

We need to get smart about what our results are, so that we can stand being bored because it gets my results. I would say that when I haven’t done what was boring but necessary, it was because I wasn’t clear that it was necessary for my end results. We must focus! This also requires a challenge to know what does hit our bottom lines, and filter everything by that.

Secondly, we need to know what our reward is: that being bored by getting my results empowers me to have time for what I really enjoy. If I can get into the mindset that the boring empowers me to have the fun, then perhaps I’d stop working 18 hours a day.

Respect The Boredom

Robin’s best quote is that he “respects the boredom.” I think I should take that same atitude, and get some healthy respect for the boring but profitable things that work, albeit without glamour. I know what many of those things are, and I feel the results when I do them. It’s just bad that often times emotion takes over and pushes the important underneath the interesting.

Your Leading Thoughts

  • Robin’s already got a conversation going on about this subject on his post “the secret money power of boredom“, so please join in there.
  • If you’d like some tips on overcoming this issue in your own life, Robin has some great tips that I highlight on this post on maintenance.
  • Our culture has created a hatred of boredom that is detrimental in my opinion. What’s yours?

Top 10 Productivity Tips

Task Force : Group

On yesterday’s post Ian Mcleary shared his 10 top productivity tips. Very useful:

1. Sort out my to-do list every morning
2. Start at 7 every morning.
3. Review my 99 day goals every week
4. Review my stats every week
5. Keep my CRM system up to date
6. Bring my laptop to meetings and be productive when waiting for people before meetings.
7. Do the GYM at least 3 times a week at lunchtime. The GYM helps me think and makes me more productive.
8. Avoid the laptop 1 day a week. You are more productive with 6 days work not 7.
9. Group my tasks by context, if I’m on the phone I try to do the phone calls all at once.
10. Make sure I’m doing 1 to 9 :-)

I’d say those are pretty good - although point 10 is blatant cheating.

Your Leading Thoughts

  • Dont’ worry about 10. What are your top 3 productivity tips?

And then, and then, and then

Whenever I talk with too much certainty about what I’ll do then, and then, and then, I know that I’ve become arrogant and lazy.

One of the gems from the Like Minds Summit back in February was short term execution with a long term goal. In other words, it was “there’s where we want to be, but let’s execute this first.”

So, essentially, there’s no “then,”, there’s only “now.”

Your Leading Thoughts

  1. Do you have similar traits when you get too confident and become complacent? (Or is it just me?)
  2. When did you learn that execution was more important that ideas?

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I’m Back!

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Hello friends – I am back from Spain (36°C) to the glorious English summer of clouds and rain. Certainly I am very, very rested and relaxed. I did no work except on the first two days, and for the majority of the holiday I didn’t even know what time it was as my watch and phone were out of sight!

A year ago after my summer holiday I said I felt re-envisioned, which was just before we launched Like Minds. This time, I feel like I’ve got a bit more re-prioritised.

Getting perspective, getting away and seeing things with fresh eyes, is a wonderful byproduct of a holiday. I find that month-on-month, we add things into our life that often are very unproductive, but we take them on because they demand our attention, and we get into the tradition of doing things for the sake of doing them. Many times we don’t even see this happen.

Or we find we are putting disproportionate amounts of time into the things that don’t yield the return that we should be putting more time into.

What I’ve found is that because a holiday STOPS you doing the little things like this, you are forced to reconsider what the priorities are.

Your Leading Thoughts

  • I’m keen to know how you get perspective and how you find holidays help you.